Saturday: I was just chatting on one of the sites. I signed off without letting him know I was leaving; he was freaking me out. Not in a threatening way. Can’t even say he was creepy. Too persistent…catches me every time I’m there. On the particular site, I don’t think there is a way to sign in invisibly.
I did start chatting with him after he made a third request in as many days…gotta admire his tenacity. I hadn’t responded earlier because I think he’s skimming more than a couple of years off his age, based on photos. I understand vanity, but, also enough already with the liars (there are way too many of them). We get it. You want to attract someone younger. Guess what. Us too.
What sent me running, though, was the series of lines. A compliment is nice. He reached out, so I asked what he was doing. He answered that he was thinking about a date with me. I asked about his weekend plans…hopefully spending time with me. Stop it! Don’t tell me you’d like to have a conversation; have a conversation! Ask a question (and not “where’d you find the fountain of youth?”).
Sunday: Today he asked why I stopped chatting and said he’d like to get to know me. Nope. Then I feel bad about not answering (since I feel bad when I don’t receive a response).
Tuesday: He’s still messaging me, this time with a question about my weekend. I can say with certainty that he’s not “the one.” Begs the question, is it nice or mean that I responded to his question/message? I really don’t know (and am very interested, reader, in your take on this).
A very tough call. What is not feeling right versus it’s okay to proceed. I’d say follow your instincts and either don’t respond him or politely say you’d rather not go anyfurther. Persistense only pays off when followed up with positive reinforcing actions. Eg: a brunch date. A museum meeting. Some daytime event so as not to be/feel pressured about anything. If it’s real it speaks for itself if not it leads to more unanswered questions.
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I would say, don’t worry about not responding. I think response will only fuel his hope. He is already operating in a way/speed that you don’t dig. Don’t spend your precious time on something your gut already has decided against.
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